Thanksgiving

So, it's that time of year again, trying to make time for all of the family during the holidays.

This is how we originally split up the holidays. I got Christmas with my family, he gets Christmas eve with his. Thanksgiving was his, and I think I got Easter? Summer holidays we decided were ours. Or spent with whomever was having a picnic.

I love Thanksgiving with my family, it's my favorite, but I gave it up because it was the only holiday he spent with his Aunt. I should mention now that he didn't tell his mother he was spending it with his aunt, for 2 years in a row she thought he was with my family. So for 2 years we spent Thanksgiving at his Aunts and then 2 days later on Saturday we went to his parents house and celebrated with them. Last year the shit hit the fan and she did find out about us going to the Aunts and was very upset. I remember he saying that she just wanted to celebrate Thanksgiving with us on Thanksgiving.

This year we decided to celebrate Thanksgiving with my family. But after the shit hitting the fan, and his mom, for some reason, still asking if we'd celebrate with them this year, I thought of a compromise. The could celebrate Thanksgiving with my family. I thought great, everyone is happy. They didn't accept at first. That they had plans. (But if our plans fell through, they would cancel theirs?) Then a couple weeks ago they changed their mind and decided to join my family's celebration. Great, we'd only have to celebrate once. Awesome.  But then... She mentioned getting a turkey for that weekend, and would we like to come for dinner. I'll probably have to work that Saturday we replied, okay, we'll do it Sunday then. And we're still trying to get out of it.

I could just look at it as more turkey, just a dinner, but I can't. This is my problem: Why do they get there own personal Thanksgiving? My family doesn't get one. Why do they get an extra celebration? I spent that last 2 years celebrating twice with his family.Why can't I just celebrate it once as a big family this year? Two birds, one stone or something.

I just don't want to start a war.