Something's are angry

About a month ago we got into a horrific fight. Screaming and yelling, me crying, him slamming the door into the wall and throwing his McDonalds across the kitchen. We drank too much. That was the real reason we were fighting. He thought I didn't trust him... I just thought he was being an ass... but we both ended up crying and he said out loud "You're the only thing I ever did right"... And the fight was over.

We have made at least 5 mistakes.

1. Me, not being on the civil service list and being unable to interview for a few jobs.
2. Both, spending money irresponsibly.
3. Him, not paying tickets, a few times.
4. Both, tax issues. 
5. Me, not interviewing for a job.

And no matter how hard we tried to make up for the mistakes, we carry the causes, effects and guilt with us. I learned that night that those are the worst reasons to be fighting, because even if the fight ends quickly and with a kiss, we still say things we don't mean. And then the fight gets bigger than it should be. All of our fights have been bigger than they should be.

One night I told him to stop it. I suddenly realized that fighting was the least productive use of our emotions and time. We're broke. We both have ambitions and not enough money to attain them. We have goals to have a family and we cannot do that yet. So instead we get really angry at each other. I asked him to forgive me that night. To just get over it. Because if these fights aren't going to end our marriage, just make us feel bad about ourselves and not solve any problem, what is the point of them?